“He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth a matter separateth very friends.”—Proverbs 17:9
Some things are better left unsaid. Being right is good but being loving is great. In our social media culture, people expose people’s transgressions—or wrongdoings—publically. Some wrongs, like murder, rape, and so forth, should always be exposed. Many other wrongs though, deserve more love than exposure. I have female friends on Facebook, who regularly expose their child’s father for not doing his part. Is it true? Mostly yes. But love covers. What if there are other factors that the mother isn’t stating? What if someone exposed the mother for all her wrongs? Do you see how exposure isn’t always good?
As a minister and spiritual advisor, people have told me their “secrets.” Although I believe in openness in my marriage, I don’t tell my wife everything people tell me. My wife, as a spiritual advisor herself, doesn’t tell me everything people tell her. That’s important. We all need a judgment-free zone. It’s sad how people jump on the bandwagon when public figures are exposed. Why? Because what would happen if all our transgressions were exposed. Or worse—what if our transgressions were exposed out of context? That’s a scary thought. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. When you have information on someone, think hard about how, if, or when you expose it. Love covers.